In the Part 1 article, we introduced three sleep training methods that many experts have recommend for years. There are three more sleep training methods to be introduced in this article, please keep reading to find the one that suits you best.
4. Pick up & Put down
If the previous three methods are a bit inappropriate, but you can't say what's wrong, then you can look at Pick up & Put down. P.U.P.D is the only one that emphasizes that you can pick your baby up, and it proceeds as follows.
4.1 Leave baby in bed
After completing the entire bedtime process, give your baby a cuddle, then gently put him in his own crib and try to sleep by himself.
4.2 Wait a while before soothing
Of course, things don't always go smoothly. Very few babies who are just getting into training fall asleep on their own. You should be able to hear a rustling sound or his loud cries. Please wait a few moments to see if he can self-soothe. If he cries a lot, then it's time to soothe him.
You can try patting gently and making shushing noises. But if they aren't coming down yet, pick him up and comfort him for about a minute or so.
4.3 Put him down
Once your baby has calmed down in your arms, put him down. If he cries during the putting down process, still put him on the mattress and repeat the shush-pat motion.
4.4 Repeat the above steps as needed
Repeat the above steps as needed depending on your baby's sleeping condition until he falls asleep.
Generally speaking, the PU.PD method takes 5 days to 3 weeks to see changes, and parents may have to pick up and put down more than 100 times on the first night. Needless to say, this is a particularly physically demanding method for parents. This method is also not suitable for all babies, and some sensitive babies can become overstimulated by being picked up and put down repeatedly, making it difficult for them to settle down and fall asleep.
However, PU.PD is more gradual and more gentle than Ferber. Because the parent stays with the child the entire time, they do not feel abandoned. This method is also good for daytime naps, which can be extended in the same way. It is even more important to try PU.PD if your baby has the following problems.
- Just fall asleep when being held, cuddled or rocked.
- Just fall asleep in a stroller or car.
- Over-reliance on props such as pacifiers.
- Getting up too early in the morning.
If everything is going well with your child, but the bedtime is not what you expect, try Fading. Note that Fading does not require your child to cry alone, if this happens you are doing it wrong. Let's use 3 steps to achieve Fading.
5.1 Observe and record your child's habitual bedtime
This needs to last for a few days (even if his current bedtime is already driving you crazy, hold back) to see what he usually does before going to bed, what time he goes to bed, and how fast he falls asleep. Generally speaking, if he doesn't want to go to sleep there are several reasons.
- Too much sleep during the day to the point that he does not want to go to sleep when it is time to do so.
- The child has reached the time of separation anxiety.
- Too much stimulation before bedtime - too much TV or too many games.
After you start Fading, make sure you have eliminated these factors that can affect your child's ability to fall asleep.
5.2 Keeping your child awake (in a calm state) until the new bedtime arrives
Usually the new bedtime is 15-30 minutes after the usual bedtime. Even if you think this is late for bedtime now, continue to hold back and delay bedtime by 15-30 minutes on top of the one that is driving you crazy.
If your child can fall asleep in 15 minutes without any problems, that's great, stick with it for two days.
| For example, if Ben's usual bedtime is 10:00, then his parents, who may already be on the verge of freaking out, can announce bedtime at 10:15. If he manages to fall asleep within 15 minutes, then the second night of the trial, his parents still call bedtime at 10:15; If Ben doesn't manage to fall asleep within 15 minutes -- which means he's not that sleepy -- his parents can call bedtime at 10:30.
Once your child has fallen asleep at the appointed time two nights in a row, congratulations, you can introduce a slightly earlier bedtime for your child.
Please note that you can keep your child awake by delaying the bedtime process or by stretching it out, if he is allowed to watch TV or play games then, ooops, he is stimulated again.
If he falls asleep before the set time, then the invisible Fading sleep expert by your side will tell you that this trial is invalid, so please start over.
5.3 Gradually advance the bedtime until you achieve your target bedtime
Congratulations! After two nights of late bedtime, you can finally start gradually advancing your child's bedtime until you reach your desired bedtime! Like delaying bedtime, you can also announce bedtime 15-30 minutes earlier on top of the late bedtime. Again, if your child can still fall asleep within 15 minutes two nights in a row, then you can continue to go 15-30 minutes earlier.
| For example, if Ben has successfully fallen asleep at 10:15pm two nights in a row and then on the third night, his parents can announce bedtime at 10:00pm.
Generally speaking, 7:00-8:00 pm is suitable for the vast majority of babies to fall asleep. Parents can also calculate the amount of sleep their children need at different stages and combine it with the length of their daytime naps to decide on a bedtime that is exclusive to their child.
As you can see from the steps above, Fading can work within a few days if it is done quickly. But some parents still need several weeks of repetition to make it work permanently. If you are looking for immediate results, then Fading might not be your first choice.
6. What to do with older children who wake up early
For some older children who are full of energy – let's say 2 years old -- going to bed on their own is no longer a problem, but the problem with this new phase is that they wake up so early that when they excitedly wake their parents up, it's still dawn outside and all they can hear is the birds chirping. So it's a headache for parents to get them to stay in bed and not come out screaming until everyone is up.
(kid always wakes up at an appropriate time)
Note that children at this age can't read clocks, they cannot tell themselves that it's not the right time to play. As a result, sleep training clocks with different colors, also known as OK-to-wake clocks, were created.
The idea behind the sleep training clock is very simple, similar to the principle of traffic lights, that is, the color of the light to tell the child whether it is time to wake up. So how do you teach your child to learn to see the ok-to-wake clock? This article gives very detailed instructions on how to do it.
Bonoch's OK-to-wake clock is a multi-tasker, with 25 built-in white noises and lullabies that can also lull children to sleep. In addition, parents can wake up the operation by voice, and can also connect the app to use, parents can set the time they can wake up in the morning through cell phone operation. Click the link to learn more.
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From deciding to raise a child to watching him grow up healthily, there are countless hurdles to overcome, and parents are like the protagonists in the fight against monsters and escalators, charging forward from level to level, with no room for retreat. I hope that every parent can successfully use sleep training to adjust their child's sleep, so that the whole family can truly achieve "sleep like a baby".